No One Cares About You
And that’s a good thing.
I want to start by thanking my niece, Aleen, for pushing me outside my comfort zone last week and the 37 new subscribers who helped me complete her challenge. We’re now 114 strong, and that means a lot to me!
Is there something you’ve been wanting to do for a while but haven’t because you’re too worried about what people might think?
Here’s some good news: no one really cares. And that’s actually a good thing.
Think about it. How often do you actually spend time thinking about other people? Maybe a few times a day and most of the time, it’s positive thoughts about the ones you care about. How often do you sit around judging or hating others? Probably close to never. We’re all too busy living our own lives to dwell on someone else’s. So why assume others are constantly thinking about you and let that stop you from doing something you really want to do?
For example, how often do you scroll past someone’s post and think something negative like “they don’t look good”? Most of us don’t. And even if we do for a split second, the thought fades right away. We move on and never think about it again.
Now flip that. Even if someone had a similar thought about you, it would live only in their head for a split second and you’d never even know. Yet somehow, we let those imaginary judgments live rent-free in our minds, shaping what we do and what we hold back from doing.
Here’s the best part: when someone does hold a negative thought or opinion of you, it almost always comes from their own insecurities. And most of the time, they’ll never say it out loud because deep down, they care too much about how they present themselves.
Take social media. When was the last time someone you personally know left a hateful comment on your post? Probably never, because most people don’t care enough to say anything.
I used to be scared of posting publicly. When I started this newsletter, I hesitated to share it with people I knew. And when I began making videos, I even thought about creating a separate Instagram account so no one I knew would see them. But with time and maturity, I realized that most people genuinely wish others well, and the few who don’t usually stay silent.
Still, when I decided to post under my personal account, fear didn’t disappear. My mind kept replaying the voices of people who had once criticized me. But as I grew older, I started to understand how little time those people actually spent thinking about me. Their comment probably took five seconds to say while I let it live in my head for years.
When I finally hit publish, something surprising happened: I was met with love. Messages from people I hadn’t spoken to in years. Words of support from friends and acquaintances. Not one hateful comment. That moment made it clear, no one I know cares enough to hate on me publicly. And if that’s true, why should I waste energy worrying about it privately?
I’m sharing this because I keep hearing stories of people in my circle paralyzed by the fear of what others might think. The truth is, even if someone does think something negative, you’ll probably never know. So why give that imaginary thought so much power?
Imagine this: your brain stops you from doing something meaningful because it believes someone might have a negative thought about you. How absurd is that? We waste so much energy on scenarios that don’t exist when in reality, everyone else is too busy worrying about themselves.
The truth is freeing:
No one really cares about you.
Not enough to remember your mistakes.
Not enough to hold you back.
So be kind. Don’t add negativity to someone else’s story because you wouldn’t want it added to yours.
And if fear of judgment is holding you back from doing something—posting online, starting a project or a business—this is your sign to just do it.
You’ll realize most people, myself included, will cheer you on. And that’s the beauty of it.